What If I Adopted A Child From The System… Would I Be A Mother Then?

For all you naysayers… those who seem to have an opinion about Katie Rae not being my daughter. Here are the state laws on adoption..

I might also add that in order for me to have been able to adopt her. Both her biological mother and her adopted father needed to sign away their rights, which were not done by force they did this willingly…

Also in doing this, even though they were both gainfully employed, even went on to own their own business, I was solely responsible for all expenses of her, which as many of you know with my medical condition..Unfortunately, we did have to rely on the government for assistance… so all your taxpayers money helped to raise her… along with a lot of financial help from my father, especially when it came to her medical needs and her many trips to Connecticut. Now think about that… as you are pointing fingers and judging me and saying, I am not her mother two people who were gainfully employed and had the ability to financially support her and had the insurance to pay for her medical could have stepped up at any point in time and helped out, but chose not to because they gave her up.

Even knowing I was unable to financially support her without Assistance which your taxpayer dollar paid for… the court awarded her to me and made me her legal mother. Due to the circumstances which involved CPS I was the better choice, I was able to provide a more stable home. One of me versus two of them. I was chosen to provide a more stable home. Their names are nowhere on her birth certificate only mine because they not only gave her up, but also gave up on her in every sense of the word….

14 family members sat in a counselors office agreeing this was what was best for her… I did not go rogue I had the support from the entire family. There is no way I would have done this without having everyone be on the same page.

So my question is to all of you that have this opinion that I am not her mother yet I am the only name on her birth certificate, … had I adopted some child I’d never met, would I be that child’s mother? If I adopted a child out of the system, would I be that child’s mother would you be questioning that?

For those of you who are making your snide comments and judging me… when have we ever sat down and had a conversation? When have you ever heard my heart, my side of the story? For that fact Katie Rae’s when she was alone and able to speak freely? Even if we might’ve talked when we were kids or a decade ago, do you know who I am and what my passion and my heart is? Or are you judging me based off of other people‘s stories and opinions of me? Is that how you would like to be judged? Is that how you would like people to talk about you based off of something that somebody else said?

Trust me, I’m not perfect and my only agenda, my only goal in life is to be better than I was yesterday. I pray to not be a stumbling block for people. I pray people see more of Jesus and less of me… between my Chrohns and my Lyme disease I have been sick for over 2/3 of my life. All I want is to live a peaceful calm Holy Spirit filled life .. find Joy, even in the bad uncomfortable days . if that’s not what you are being told about me, you are receiving misinformation...

Do you even know how this all started? Yes I raised her the first three years of her life. But then when she ran away the last time in February of that year.. I was living in Perrysville. She was going to school in Berlin… I took her to school every morning and sat in a coffee shop because I didn’t have the gas to drive back home. Now, if y’all thought that was an agenda for me…. We were in the middle of a Bible Study Life interrupted. February to June… every day. Life as I knew it was no longer, and I did it to help my biological daughter‘s marriage… I was in the midst of moving to Charleston and I laid that down not just for Katie Rae, but for my daughter and her husband…

There is so much to the story that everybody just wants to overlook. So anytime anyone of you want to actually have a conversation with me rather than judge me based on somebody else’s version.. if you’d like to maybe stop hating on me and find out facts… facts that are documented in multiple counselor offices and medical offices. Let me know. I would gladly welcome the opportunity at any point in time.

https://www.lsc.ohio.gov/assets/organizations/legislative-service-commission/files/ohio-adoption-basics.pdf